Premarital Couples Therapy

Are you and your partner recently engaged?  Or are you both thinking about marriage?  Be proactive and make a smart investment in premarital counseling!

This form of couples counseling is becoming more and more popular as couples decide to control of their future and prevent later problems and divorce.  You have two options for completing premarital therapy at Decision Point Therapy:

The Prepare-Enrich Program

Couples Therapy

Read on to learn more about both of these options.  Keep in mind, that some couples opt to do a combination of these options (for example, beginning with traditional couples therapy and using Prepare-Enrich while transitioning out of therapy).

The Prepare-Enrich Program

Prepare-Enrich is a structured program which focuses on preparing couples for healthy marriages before they take that step, and enriching marriage for those couples who are already married.

During your Prepare-Enrich sessions, you and your partner will work on many different areas of your relationship to help you get a strong start for marriage.  Areas we'll cover include:

  • Your relationship strength and growth areas
  • Communication skills
  • Conflict resolution skills
  • Financial management
  • Sex and affection
  • Relationship roles & household division of labor
  • Expectations and beliefs about marriage
  • Decisions about parenthood
  • Decisions about the role of religion and spirituality in your marriage
  • Handling personal stress in healthy ways
  • Your family background (family-of-origin) similarities and differences, and how these may impact the marriage
  • Your personality similarities and differences, and how these impact your relationship dynamics
  • Short and long-term goals you both share as a couple

I strongly believe in the program and the science on which it is based.  By asking my couples directly about the value, I've found that every couple that I've used it with so far has found great value in the program and many have reported using the skills and materials long after completing it.

Overall, I think it's a great way to examine and strengthen all areas of your relationship, especially in preparation for marriage.

Frequently Asked Questions about Prepare-Enrich

What is PREPARE-ENRICH?

Prepare-Enrich is a program designed for marriage preparation (for engaged couples or those thinking about marriage) and marriage enrichment (for couples who are already married).  For detailed information about it directly from the creators, click below.

How does it work?

The real program can only be accessed through a trained Prepare-Enrich facilitator.  As a trained facilitator for the program, I always recommend an initial assessment session of couples therapy to discuss your relationship and if the program is appropriate for you and your partner.

If it's a good fit, you have the option of starting the program with me during session #2 or doing traditional couples therapy.

After your initial assessment session, couples who decide to do the program begin by taking an online test at home.  This takes most people 20-30 minutes.

Then, your results are sent to me via email.  Once I receive the results, I prepare your personalized couples report and review the results of it with you during our sessions.

Each session consists of reviewing your results in select areas and completing program activities which you will receive  from me in your couples workbook.  Between sessions, there will be homework for you and your partner to complete before returning for your next session.

Couples counseling before marriage

How much does it cost?

The only cost for the program (in addition to my standard session fee) is a $35 fee.  This is paid when you take the online test at home and goes directly to the company which created the program.  This covers the report fee for both you and your partner and can be paid by credit card.

Beyond that, your cost would be the same for each session as it would be with traditional couples therapy with me.

If budget is a concern - as it is for many couples who are paying for wedding expenses - we can discuss doing fewer of the program sessions or spacing them out to help you afford the full program.  I strongly recommend completing the full program but if that is not a possibility for you and your partner, I'd encourage you to complete at least 4 of the program sessions before ending.

How long does it take to complete?

The full program can be done in 8 standard sessions with me (50-minutes each).  I recommend that couples start with an initial assessment session with me (a non-program session), and then begin the program at session #2 if we deem that it would be a good fit for you.

In total, I encourage couples to plan for 9 sessions (1 assessment session + 8 program sessions).  Some couples also opt to schedule a follow-up session several weeks or months following their completion of the program.

The program seems to work best for couples who are getting married within the next 6-12 months, or who have just recently married.  However, many couples do the program right before their wedding.

If you are on a tight time frame, we can discuss possibly condensing the program to fewer than 8 sessions (e.g., 6-7 extended sessions).  Or you can opt to begin it before your wedding and complete the remaining sessions a few weeks after it.  Most all of the couples I have worked with have found it useful and choose to complete the full program.

Other questions?

Should you find yourself considering the program for you and your partner, please don't hesitate to contact me.  It is a great program but not appropriate for everyone, as there are some cases in which there are very serious relationship issues that need to be addressed with traditional couples therapy.

I have found that Prepare-Enrich works best for couples who are premarital or in their first couple of years of marriage, as relationship patterns are being established.  However, couples who have been married for several years have found it useful as well.  To get started, request your free phone consultation.

Couples Therapy

For some couples, the Prepare-Enrich program may not be the best fit for their premarital counseling needs.  For example, some couples are low in their overall relationship satisfaction and have more serious issues that need to be addressed before marriage that can't be deeply explored within the program sessions.

If this is the case for you, you may also opt to do premarital counseling with me using couples therapy, or you may opt to begin with couples therapy and complete Prepare-Enrich before ending counseling.  For more about couples therapy, click below.